Last
Sunday our pontoon of family and friends pulled up to the infamous “The
Rocks” at Lake Oconee. They rise about 30 feet out of the water (ok,
maybe 15) and because they have a slope to them, one must take a
running leap to avoid painful contact with the rocks on the way down.
We watched for a while as teen boys back-flipped
and dove into the water. Then a dad jumped in holding his four year
old son. When an eight year old boy took the leap, the hearty dialogue
began between my courageous “do it; walk the talk, get out of your
comfort zone” self and the timid “this will feel really bad” self. The
matter was settled when 1) a dog jumped off and 2) my son’s girlfriend
said she wanted to do it but not alone. Somehow the dog triggered my
ego and the girlfriend ignited my “be a good hostess” persona.
So, off we swam to shore, clunked into a few
underwater rocks that left bruises, climbed up a slippery ladder and
stood atop the rock. Have you ever noticed that from the top of
something it looks a heck of lot higher than from below?
While standing up there, I remembered that the
physical symptoms of fear and excitement are similar. A major
difference is that when you allow the symptoms and the mental chatter
about fear to take over you become paralyzed (and have to crawl
backwards down a ladder and experience acute humiliation) OR you can
acknowledge those same symptoms as excitement and take the figurative
running leap (in my case, it was a real one) into an exciting new and
uncomfortable territory.
So, what’s the payoff for taking the leap? When
you face your fears AMAZING things happen. You begin to live life more
fully by not letting your fear of feeling bad slow you down (doing
something highly dangerous that you are not prepared for is a whole
other discussion). You gain confidence, pride, satisfaction and
greater joy from doing something out of your comfort zone .You even get
to experience those great feelings over and over again by reliving them
in your mind. Best of all, little by little you will begin facing
other fears and doing those things that you never thought you would do
but dreamed of doing.
So ask yourself next time you are feeling the tug
between fear and excitement: “What would I do if I wasn’t feeling
fear?” and if the answer is I would dance, leap off rocks, speak more
in public or wear a tarantula (another story), then it is time to turn
that fear into excitement and take the leap.